This Dharma Glimpse was originally presented on April 11, 2021, as part of my participation in the Lay Ministry Program of the Bright Dawn Center of Oneness Buddhism.
A few years ago, I was in a very challenging position. One day, an aunt who had been like a grandmother in the maternal side of my family passed away after struggling with some challenges. The next day, my mother suddenly passed away due to complications from an at-work injury. In the next couple of months, my maternal grandparents would pass away, who prior to then were being cared for in part by my mother. During this time, I was in the lower end of my 20s, in the first 6 months of a new job living the next state over from where all these people lived. Bearing that in mind, I think few would take issue with one admitting that this was overwhelming.
I haven’t always been one who has liked accepting help from others. Typically, I have tried to go on solely on my own effort, likely a sense of pride or distrust. Besides the ways in which my family dynamics changed as a result of this period, I find that the way I look to asking for or accepting help from others has changed as well. These days, I see myself trying less and less to maintain an isolationist mindset. Instead, I find that I am often willing to embrace the interdependence of all things, recognizing that even if I fulfill a task no matter the size all by myself, I can see a greater connection with others through previous interactions, transportation means, nourishment consumption, among other ways.
Looking forward from this glimpse, I feel that it is certainly appropriate for us to treasure in mind the interdependence of all things. We are never facing anything alone in life; we are constantly supported, even if it doesn’t look or feel like it at that moment.